Values-based dating
Values-based dating matches on what you believe and want from life — the best-evidenced basis for lasting compatibility.
Values-based dating means choosing a partner on what actually holds a relationship together over time — your beliefs, your priorities, how you want to live and what you want from the future — rather than on appearance or a list of hobbies. Two people can share every hobby and clash on everything that matters; values-based dating is built to notice the difference.
It's a deliberately substantive approach. Where swipe apps reward the most photogenic and questionnaire sites freeze you in the answers you gave on day one, values-based dating focuses on the deeper signals that relationship science consistently links to lasting satisfaction: value congruence and compatible outlooks.
On Lamp, values are central to matching. You can describe what matters to you in plain English with a Wish, and Lamp's AI weighs your values and personality when deciding who to introduce — so you meet a curated few people who genuinely fit your life, with the reasons you align shown up front.
Key points
- It matches on beliefs, priorities and life goals — not photos, hobbies alone, or filters.
- Shared values are among the best-evidenced predictors of a lasting relationship.
- Lamp lets you state what matters in plain English with Wishes and weighs it in matching.
- It's the deeper foundation Lamp is built on, free on iOS.
Frequently asked
Why do shared values matter more than shared hobbies?
Which dating app matches on values?
Meet people you're genuinely compatible with.
Picture a first date with someone who actually gets you — your values, your humour, the future you want. That's the whole point of Lamp. Download free and let Genie take it from there.
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