Value congruence

Value congruence is the degree to which two people hold the same or closely aligned core values: what they believe matters, how they want to live, what they expect from a relationship and from the future. It is distinct from sharing hobbies or getting on well on a first date. Two people can enjoy the same films, laugh at the same jokes and still clash constantly on money, family, ambition or commitment — because those clashes are value gaps, not personality quirks.

Decades of relationship research place value and attitude similarity among the more reliable correlates of long-term satisfaction — from Byrne's foundational similarity-attraction work (1971) to couple studies such as Luo and Klohnen's analysis of newlyweds (2005) and Gaunt's research on couple similarity and marital satisfaction (2006). Apps that match on photos, distance and a handful of checkbox filters produce no signal on value alignment at all. They leave daters to discover value gaps the hard way — often months into a relationship — which is a waste of everyone's time and emotional energy.

Value congruence is the core target of Lamp's matching. Rather than asking you to fill in a questionnaire, Lamp reads your values from your profile and natural-language Wishes, models them with AI alongside those of other members, and introduces people whose values genuinely align with yours. The compatibility view makes those shared foundations visible before you say hello — so you start a conversation already knowing the match is real.